Being a Mom and a Comedian – Exclusively inclusive

January 29th, 2015

A fellow Comedian Mom – a Momedian if you will, wrote a great post for The Bump. She writes about how hard it is to try to advance a career in comedy and also raise tiny humans. Then she listed off a wonderful group of Momedians and I am incredibly honored to be a part of this amazing list:

My Appearance on Unfiltered & Unaffected

July 25th, 2014

I had a super fun time on Unfiltered & Unaffected today, you can watch the video here

We talked about Morgan Freeman, Frank Caliendo, LeBraun James, MMA, me, parenting, weed, more weed and Ghost of Ivy sang some pretty awesome songs, I’m now a fan. Watch it and enjoy. I’m pretty quiet at the beginning (I liven up at the 20ish minute mark). I was brought up to wait to speak until spoken to 🙂

I suck at blogging

February 8th, 2014

Seriously. Just follow me on twitter 🙂


Phone home

February 7th, 2012

Last night I was doing a set at an open mic, placed my phone on the table in front of the stage to record the audio of my set and half way through my set, noticed my phone was gone. Someone stole my phone! We ransacked the bar, called it, had the bouncer pat down remaining patrons to no avail. The phone battery had died or the phone had been shut off. We had a pretty good idea who took it and I could see a lynch mob forming.

I mourned my phone all day, changed passwords, filed a police report, initiated GPS tracking on it; it sucked. I had a show tonight, but after, I was going to go back to the bar and hope and pray someone found it and turned it in. People reminded me that thieves don’t typically return the items they steal.

I walked into the bar, said hi to the employee at the door, Luke, nice guy. Explained the situation to him and he searched the back of the bar. No phone. I fight back tears, succumb to the fact that I have to pay for a new phone and almost leave. Luke asks me what happened. I start to tell him the story and about the guy we suspected of stealing the phone and how he seemed very drunk. Luke says it’s funny how that guy seems to be there every night in a different body and how you really can’t trust people anymore.

A guy kind of bumps into me and as I turn to see who it is I see the face of the man who stole my phone. It was him! I try to gesture to Luke “omg that’s him, get him!” but for the first time in a long time I’m speechless! I can’t get words to leave my face! Ninja skills, react! Take him down… nothing… I’m in utter shock. Then I hear the perp say “hey I was here for comedy last night and somehow ended up with this phone…” and he pulls my phone out of his pocket.

Serendipitous that I was there just as he arrived to return it. After he left, Luke and I looked at each other like, no way that totally just happened! My faith in humanity is restored and omg I got my phone back, yay!

Now to go change all my passwords back to something I remember.

Funnier lately

September 30th, 2011

I feel funnier lately. Not in a weird way, but in an actual laughter ha ha funnier way. I’m more comfortable on stage, less concerned about saying something the exact way I want to say it. Delving into retelling a story and trying to bring the audience along with me. I’ve had a few comics tell me “that was a really good set”. Comics don’t usually give nice feedback freely. Either they say something generic like “nice job” or they don’t say anything.

I’ve always felt funny along these lines; with friends, at parties, meeting new people. But somehow when I first came to the stage it didn’t come out naturally. I cared a lot about what people thought of my comedy. I really enjoy making people laugh and the fear that they wouldn’t just took over and consumed me. I still care about making people laugh, but somehow it’s different.

I think about that woman out there that has a couple of kids, a full time job and a ton of stress who just wants a fun night out, who wants to laugh. That was me, I want to make me laugh. So I share my mishaps, life events, crazy thoughts and if it makes you laugh, great!

Being a single Mom-post divorce

December 5th, 2010

Single Mom has many meanings to it. Could have been widowed, divorced, abandoned, the one in charge while the other is off fighting our war, chose to have a baby on your own… what ever your circumstances, single Mom doesn’t define you. None of us are truly alone in this parenting thing. Yes, you get to make the rules in your house (hey that’s a bonus in my mind), but you’re not single, meaning one and alone.

People ask me how I do it. How do I raise 3 rowdy boys by myself. Don’t kid yourself folks if I had to do this by myself, I’d have gone insane by now. So would you. I have family, friends, coworkers, teachers, doctors (no shrinks yet maybe someday, but her I’m referring to their awesome pediatrician), and countless others that help me in some large or small way.

My ex-husband and I share a unique relationship. We’re friends. I know scary right? We realized that as we grew older our needs from our relationship changed (see future post of getting married too young) and we had grown apart as people. It wasn’t that we didn’t talk, we just grew up into the people we were meant to become. Different political views, social views, priorities, plans for fun, hobbies, you name it. Yes, we had our past, our kids and some interests but fundamentally we had changed.

One could argue that we could have made it work, compromised and gone into eternity settling. However, we only have one life. We only have this one body in this one lifetime to do what we were put here to do. If you compromise on what you want out of life, then what’s the point? We agreed on this point and agreed to be friends.

Don’t get me wrong it wasn’t skipping through the daisies all the way to divorce court. It was a long, tiring road, filled with emotional hurt, spattered with arguments and fights, but our long term goal was to be friends and be there together as parents for our kids. We both agreed that when you love someone enough to be married and have children and build a life together for 15 years, it would be a disservice to all that was good to trash it with nasty words and bitterness that may have felt a tiny bit good in the moment but long term would hurt us, or worse, our kids.

People don’t know how to take a friendly divorced couple. If it’s a nasty divorce you pick a side and together you bash the ex. People in our lives looked at us funny. People from both sides of our lives shunned the other person because that’s what you’re supposed to do right? Wrong. It’s funny how some people can be totally uncomfortable about your divorce even when you’re fine with it.

People ask me if I’m happier now that I’m divorced or if I’m better off. There’s no happier or better off, there just is. There’s no more fights, but there’s loneliness. I never knew this kind of loneliness before. It’s not just the quiet nights in the house when the boys are with their Dad, it’s the loss of people in my life. First there’s his family. Yes, they are great people and they didn’t shun me out of their lives, but it’s not like I go to all of their events anymore. People feel uncomfortable, I think you get a social plague when you get divorced. People want to give you your space. That space is quiet and empty. Your married friends with family don’t spend as much time with you because they think you’ll feel awkward now that you’re alone. Maybe it’s just me, but I prefer to be around people.

People ask me if I’d do it all over again. All of it? Maybe not. But yes, I’d still get divorced. My ex found and married a wonderful woman. They are extremely happy and perfect for each other. She’s a great Step-Mom to my kids and as someone with a great Mom and Step-Mom, I know how important it is to have many loving people in your life. It still takes a village to raise kids. I know my heart will find happiness again someday and until then, I write jokes 🙂

It takes strength to look inside yourself and ask yourself what you truly want out of life. If you do this and you’re not currently doing what you want, fix it. Change your life, you only get one. If you’re living your life to please someone else, then in the long run you’ll only hurt each other. But do it with dignity, respect and honesty. Cherish the people in your lives, they enrich your life for the better. Even the crazy ones. After all I bet some of the best times in your life came from knowing one of the crazy ones.

One of the crazy ones

Comedy Fame and Fortune

December 2nd, 2010

Well not quite yet, but if I say it enough maybe it will happen. I did win a contest on November 18th. My first win and my first money for being funny. As a comedian who finds the laughter in the pain I try to justify to myself that it was a small contest, that it was only the first round of the contest, that the other comedians present had less experience… what ever I can come up with that takes the win and makes a less bigger deal of it. Yeah, self deprecation, I may take it too far.

It’s funny, people think when you do comedy that you’re out living the life of a star, making money left and right, laughter goes with you everywhere. That is so not what happens. It’s long nights in a dingy bar waiting for your turn to silence the room with your new bad joke. People telling you what they think would be a funny joke, how they have always been told they should be on stage doing comedy but they just can’t seem to get on the stage, people telling you why they did or didn’t like your joke as they assume the role of the newest and brightest comedy critic on the scene. Yep, comedy fame and fortune, here I come.

Don’t get me wrong, I treasure ever moment in the bar hanging out with the funniest and brightest upcoming stars of tomorrow. My brethren in pain and laughter. Nobody gets you quite like a comic. I take in and enjoy the audience members after a show that want to come up to you and tell you how they are a single Mom too and laughed at every thing you said. That makes me all warm and fuzzy inside. I love being able to make people laugh. It gives me purpose beyond being a Mom, a daughter, a sister, a friend, an employee… it’s something that goes beyond a relationship dependent on another person. My comedy is for me which is intrinsically cool because it happens to benefit others. Comedy fame and fortune, here I come.

Friday Fun

September 11th, 2010

What a fun, renewed, long day 🙂 Did the corporate thing all day (where I analyze business process stuff… yes stuff is the technical part of that statement), then up to Central City for some… comedy. Yes, comedy, not gambling. Louie Anderson came to town, did a benefit for Historic Georgetown, Inc. at the Central City Opera House. What a great place! I’ve walked by it before but never been inside. Deacon Gray from Comedy Works opened for him, it was a good show. Always enjoy watching two comedians I like.

Had dinner with a friend, then off to the 404 for comedic laughs of my own. I go there late so I wasn’t sure if I’d get on the list, but Andrew Smyczek manage to squeeze me in. Was a weird set, I was actually contemplating going home, was beat from the day, then Smyczek pats me and says you’re next. Had a guy tell me I wasn’t funny but I was hot. Didn’t quite know how to take that. On one hand he called me hot, on the other… not funny. Bah, I’d rather be funny! So I told him my vibrator joke and all is right with the world.

Website up!

September 7th, 2010

Well if you made it here, you know that my website is up and running! Huge thanks to Kevin Cease and Larry Long for the awesome, tiring and totally rewarding (I’m sure) work on getting this published. Bare with me as I get into the habit of blogging again, there will be updates here regularly. I also need to update the about me (I sooo dislike writing about me).

Welcome, poke around and let me know what you think 🙂 Feel free to comment and contact me through the website, it’s my new favorite toy and I foresee abandoning facebook for more updates here!